Gen-X-ers, thirty somethings, empty-nesters....heck, even my Mom has a FaceBook page.
I have a personal FaceBook page and a Business FaceBook page. I originally created my personal page way, way back, when there was no such thing as a business "Fan Page" and I was going to use it to promote (hopefully) my budding blog and online business. Little by little, my "friends" grew. Most of them are people out here in blog land that know me from my blog.
When the Business Pages were available (or maybe I was just slow ot discover them...) I created one for my business, with the idea being to share things about my vintage furniture and antiques and any online items I might be selling.
I don't really get into the oodles and toodles of FaceBook games and contests...(Nope, no Farmville for me, and I tried Scrabble for a while and found out I am a lousy Scrabble player.) I pretty much use my personal page to share blog posts and keep up (very loosely) with old friends I have lost touch with, (it has been nice logging on to discover a message from a voice from the past now and then) but I do not check my page repeatedly throughout the day, nor do I have my settings set up to give me emails or whatever on who's doing what with who and where on my News Feed page. (or is that my Wall? I forget.)
Sometimes I get an email reminding me of friends birthdays, but for some reason I don't seem to get that particular email regularly.
Where am I going with this post, you ask? Stay with me here, and I'll tell you. A couple of weeks ago I received a very curt message from an online "friend" that I have "known" online for quite a number of years. (This being said, I would not call this person a close enough friend that I email her on a regular basis from my personal email address.) She was letting me know that she was unfriending me because (and I will quote her here now...) she "decided to retain only those "friends" who actually are -- people who interact and respond to posts, people who wish one another happy birthday and who cheer one another on. I just don't have the time the room the patience the inclination for a one-sided "friendship".
I felt my face turn red as I finished reading her message. I instantly clicked to her FaceBook page, and as I suspected, I had just a few days before, missed her birthday. Now, I have no idea if it was a milestone birthday, or if it may have simply been coincidence that she got irritated with me at this particular time, but I felt like she thought I had let her down terribly.
I am sharing this story because I want you to know that, if you "friend " me on faceBook, or follow me on Twitter, I may (or may not) reply to a comment you leave on my wall (or home page or a tweet or whatever the proper name may be.) If you use these platforms for maintaining friendships, games, and whatever else, that's great. I primarily use FaceBook (and most recently Twitter) to share little updates about my business and blog, and I am thrilled that so many readers out there are following my page.
The plain and simple truth of the matter is that I am not the best at time managment and while I have the best of intentions, sometimes (often) time gets away from me. I sometimes lose track of emails to be replied to and, if you don't get an answer (or a "Happy Birthday" or a "Howdy, how are ya?") that should not be taken to mean that I am snubbing or ignoring you. I think we all need have our own reasons for using these great sites, and if my reasons are slightly different than yours, please don't hold it against me, or take it personally. I just think it's fabulous that we have these incredible tools that make the world a smaller, more informed, compassionate, friendlier place.